My sister surprised us on their anniversary and had requested the slide show that was presented at my parent's 50th anniversary celebration 4 years ago. We thought we would never see it again because of stupid decisions and circumstances of a certain person but my sister broke down and asked for it .Lots of tears.
My nephew and I have great conversations in the car. We were driving past the cemetery yesterday and I got a little teary eyed and shared with him that I miss my brother and my Dad, his Be-Bob. This lead into me asking him to guess what I had for dinner last night. His hint was it was Be-Bob's favorite dinner. He first guessed Eggo's, well you have to know my Dad had two Eggo's every morning for breakfast. He then guessed fish. I told him BeBob liked fish but it wasn't his favorite. Now, I have to let you in on a secret. My Dad hated catfish on pure principle that it had whiskers and he loved cats. My Mother and I love fried catfish and she can cook it wonderfully. We would never tell him we were having catfish, we would just say fish. If he was persistent, we were just as persistent at just saying fish and he would eat it. I let my nephew in on this secret about a year ago. So after I said no to the fish answer, he asked, "I think BeBob knows about your catfish secret now". I had to laugh cause I am sure he does know but at this point he didn't care anymore. He finally guessed I had a hamburger but could not guess where from. I finally told him the local What-A-Burger. He would call and say 2 all the way with no salt and they knew it was for Mr. Bob. Lots of smiles after this conversation.
We have been thinking of the 4 words to put on my Dad's marker at the cemetery. He is a veteran and the military provides his marker but with only 4 words. I thought of the perfect phrase but my Mother does not see my sense of humor. My suggestion was....LET GO MY EGGO......I still smile cause of his morning Eggo ritual......when I die tell my family to put something fun on mine. Life is too short to not be silly sometimes. The person that has pre-bought the one across from my brothers and fathers says.....What a strange journey this has been. I laugh everytime I see it .
I do have to say, it is very hard going to gravesite and seeing my brother and my fathers names there. I am so young to have lost the two most important men in my life.