There has been a pow-wow going on at my grandfather's house for over 3 hours. The last update I had was that it was a screaming match and that my mom's sister was telling more lies.
First let me tell you... My grandfather has been on my mom's back for three months to take him to a lawyer and remove her sister from the will. My mom has refused.
Today, her sister and husband actually stayed last night. It is a miracle. She never stays. My grandfather is mad at my mom for yelling at him when he said something derogatory against my father. Update... My mom said, she did not yell at him that she walked away from the conversation. My father who has stayed at his house every night for almost a year to care for him and for my grandmother at the time. My mom felt he had no right to down my father.
My mom receives a phone call that my grandfather is wanting my aunt's husband to take him to a lawyer to remove my mom from the will. He was really going to take him. My mother informed her of the requests for the past three months but was told she was lying. Then my grandfather says that if he said that then he was not in his right mind. So my mom told her to call her son-in-law, he also was asked to take him to a lawyer to remove my mom's sister and refused. He verified it was true.
So last I heard at 4:30 was there was a screaming match and that my very even tempered brother was up there for my mom' s witness and moral support and he was yelling too. I was told my aunt just keeps telling lie after lie after lie. How she keeps them all straight , I don't know but she does.
So please continue to pray. They all are still up there and I know nothing.
As for the question of leaving my mom's sister with my grandfather on that .25 a day. She will leave him and then say my parents should have shown up to take care of him. That happened the other day when my father arrived 5 minutes after she left. In that 5 minutes my grandfather fell and she said it was my father's fault for not being there 5 minutes sooner.
Thursday, October 14, 2010
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
Tired....
Tired of the drama....Tired of it all.
I have not posted about my family drama in awhile. I still wont tonight. Just know it is still happening. Everyday. I mean EVERY DAY.
My parents have been tending to my grandfather for 24 hours a day 6.75 days a week. The .25 a day my aunt visits him. That is it. That is also between her going out of town for two to three weeks at a time.
He is losing control of his life. He has been a literal butt the last few days towards my parents and has acted like my aunt is the best thing on earth. No I will not regret saying he has been a butt because he has.
My mom's sister, formerly known as my aunt has been verbally and mentally abusive to my mother for the past year. She says things on the phone with no witnesses and then when approached by someone she denies saying it. She is the queen of lies and manipulation.I have heard her say these things on the cell phone myself but says I lie. Then accuses my mom of lying. My mom can not tell a lie. Now this woman has turned her new husband in the situation and he hates my mom and thinks my mom is the bad one. He is brainwashed by her. She has the conversations with my mom when he is outside or visiting his kids. She is good. Why should we expect anything less from him though ? He lied on his Eharmony application about his age. He
said he was 72 and he was 78.
I am so tired of the one doing the work and being the good one being dogged. When will it finally be the good one wins over evil? My grandfather made her this way because she was "his" child and my mom was my grandmother's. In the end of both lives , my mom has been the one caring for them both.
When will this all be over? I hate the stress.
Please pray. Please pray. Please pray . I write this with tears in my eyes. I am so tired of it all.
As a family, well my immediate family. We are supposed to go to my mom's sister's for Thanksgiving and pretend we are one happy family but we are not. I really think I am going to be the first to make the phone call that I will not be there at her house on Thanksgiving. That is suppposed to be a relaxing family day. I have hated going to her house since her and I had words a few years ago in NY at the Rockefeller Center. A nice holiday should not be misery.
This has to stop some time. She has the reap the repercussions of her ways.
Well I said I wouldn't post about the drama but I did. This is only a smidgen. If I posted everything it would be a book and it would make your head spin.
Do I care that some rare chance that she may read this? NOPE I don't because I have posted the truth. You can not keep dogging our mother and father and manipulating my grandfather and expect respect or the perfect "Rockwell " holiday picture. Nope , you can't.
I am tired. I am done.
I have not posted about my family drama in awhile. I still wont tonight. Just know it is still happening. Everyday. I mean EVERY DAY.
My parents have been tending to my grandfather for 24 hours a day 6.75 days a week. The .25 a day my aunt visits him. That is it. That is also between her going out of town for two to three weeks at a time.
He is losing control of his life. He has been a literal butt the last few days towards my parents and has acted like my aunt is the best thing on earth. No I will not regret saying he has been a butt because he has.
My mom's sister, formerly known as my aunt has been verbally and mentally abusive to my mother for the past year. She says things on the phone with no witnesses and then when approached by someone she denies saying it. She is the queen of lies and manipulation.I have heard her say these things on the cell phone myself but says I lie. Then accuses my mom of lying. My mom can not tell a lie. Now this woman has turned her new husband in the situation and he hates my mom and thinks my mom is the bad one. He is brainwashed by her. She has the conversations with my mom when he is outside or visiting his kids. She is good. Why should we expect anything less from him though ? He lied on his Eharmony application about his age. He
said he was 72 and he was 78.
I am so tired of the one doing the work and being the good one being dogged. When will it finally be the good one wins over evil? My grandfather made her this way because she was "his" child and my mom was my grandmother's. In the end of both lives , my mom has been the one caring for them both.
When will this all be over? I hate the stress.
Please pray. Please pray. Please pray . I write this with tears in my eyes. I am so tired of it all.
As a family, well my immediate family. We are supposed to go to my mom's sister's for Thanksgiving and pretend we are one happy family but we are not. I really think I am going to be the first to make the phone call that I will not be there at her house on Thanksgiving. That is suppposed to be a relaxing family day. I have hated going to her house since her and I had words a few years ago in NY at the Rockefeller Center. A nice holiday should not be misery.
This has to stop some time. She has the reap the repercussions of her ways.
Well I said I wouldn't post about the drama but I did. This is only a smidgen. If I posted everything it would be a book and it would make your head spin.
Do I care that some rare chance that she may read this? NOPE I don't because I have posted the truth. You can not keep dogging our mother and father and manipulating my grandfather and expect respect or the perfect "Rockwell " holiday picture. Nope , you can't.
I am tired. I am done.
Sunday, October 10, 2010
Why did I do that????????
Why did I go to McDonald's and order food?
I was hungry. It was late. I knew it would take 15-20 minutes to cook something at home. I sat waiting for my food for 12 minutes. That should have been a clue but at that time they already had my money.
The Big Mac was nothing that it used to be. The fries were sub-par.
Oh why ! Oh why did I make that decision. My tummy is now feeling green too.
I rarely eat fast-food besides Subway and Chinese. So for me to go McDonald's was really rare and now I remember why.
Next time make mental note. The 20 minutes to cook something at home is so worth it over McDonald's food.
I was hungry. It was late. I knew it would take 15-20 minutes to cook something at home. I sat waiting for my food for 12 minutes. That should have been a clue but at that time they already had my money.
The Big Mac was nothing that it used to be. The fries were sub-par.
Oh why ! Oh why did I make that decision. My tummy is now feeling green too.
I rarely eat fast-food besides Subway and Chinese. So for me to go McDonald's was really rare and now I remember why.
Next time make mental note. The 20 minutes to cook something at home is so worth it over McDonald's food.
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
AHHH... Fall!
Itchy eyes....Itchy ears..... Itchy throat..... Runny Nose.....Bronchitis Cough approaching fast....... AHHHHH..... FALL!
:(
All of this after just recovering from the stomach flu too.
Give me winter and summer anytime.
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All of this after just recovering from the stomach flu too.
Give me winter and summer anytime.
Thursday, September 30, 2010
REAL.....
REAL........ According to the dictionary, real means of or relating to fixed, permanent, or immovable things ;not artificial, fraudulent, or illusory.
This word has caused some friction in my life this evening. A statement was made with this word concerning adoption. My nephew is adopted. It is not a secret. He will tell you that another woman carried him in her belly and God chose him to be a part of our family. You see the statement was....How will he react when he finds out that my sister and brother in law are not his "real" parents and he chooses to look for his "real" parents. I flew off the handle with this statement. You see my sister and BIL are his "real" parents. They are there for him everyday. They are raising him. They are permanent, it is legal and they are not going anywhere. Their relationship as his parents is immovable. It is not artificial or fraudulent. It is what it is, two loving parents raising the son they have loved since he was an infant.
I am in no way undermining the role of his biological parents. They are exactly that, the biological parents. Just because they share DNA it does not make them his "real" parents. They knew they could not be "real" parents. "Real" parents are there every day. They love, support, nurture and provide for the child. His biological parents knew that they could not fulfill these roles and be what they needed to be for him. They knew enough about themselves to give him up to a couple who could be all this. They loved him enough to provide him with a "real" family by placing him up for adoption. Because of this, I am ever grateful for their fling of passion that resulted in such a beautiful blessing to our family. His "real" family that loves and supports him. The "real" family that has smiled and cried through the last seven years. In his life, my sister and BIL are his "real" parents. We are his "real" family. His life is "real". We are "real". We are permanent, we are immovable. We will never run from him. We are not artificial. Silk flowers are artificial. We are "real" in every since of the word.
Thank you Lord for an awesome nephew that you brought to our family. Thank you for allowing me to be his "real" aunt. I could not love him any more if he were my own child.
This word has caused some friction in my life this evening. A statement was made with this word concerning adoption. My nephew is adopted. It is not a secret. He will tell you that another woman carried him in her belly and God chose him to be a part of our family. You see the statement was....How will he react when he finds out that my sister and brother in law are not his "real" parents and he chooses to look for his "real" parents. I flew off the handle with this statement. You see my sister and BIL are his "real" parents. They are there for him everyday. They are raising him. They are permanent, it is legal and they are not going anywhere. Their relationship as his parents is immovable. It is not artificial or fraudulent. It is what it is, two loving parents raising the son they have loved since he was an infant.
I am in no way undermining the role of his biological parents. They are exactly that, the biological parents. Just because they share DNA it does not make them his "real" parents. They knew they could not be "real" parents. "Real" parents are there every day. They love, support, nurture and provide for the child. His biological parents knew that they could not fulfill these roles and be what they needed to be for him. They knew enough about themselves to give him up to a couple who could be all this. They loved him enough to provide him with a "real" family by placing him up for adoption. Because of this, I am ever grateful for their fling of passion that resulted in such a beautiful blessing to our family. His "real" family that loves and supports him. The "real" family that has smiled and cried through the last seven years. In his life, my sister and BIL are his "real" parents. We are his "real" family. His life is "real". We are "real". We are permanent, we are immovable. We will never run from him. We are not artificial. Silk flowers are artificial. We are "real" in every since of the word.
Thank you Lord for an awesome nephew that you brought to our family. Thank you for allowing me to be his "real" aunt. I could not love him any more if he were my own child.
Friday, September 24, 2010
More pics 2
Buffet Table
Buffet table again
My nephew, first in line and already eating. 
My brother and his wife. She put together an awesome Power Point in honor of my parents.
That is it for now until someone processes some different pictures.
My brother and his wife. She put together an awesome Power Point in honor of my parents.
That is it for now until someone processes some different pictures. What I do not have pictures of yet are the soloists and the dispay tables. There was one table that we had her dress , wedding album, cake topper, Bible and various other things from the wedding day. In the back I had a Guess the Price from 1960 table and sample wedding gifts.
More Pics 1
Table Decorations. We found old records at the thrift store for 50 cents or less. We printed some black and white wedding pictures and glued them to the records as a centerpiece. The other record I warped in the oven and made a bowl for the Chex Mix appetizers. The baskets were baskets we have collected at our store through the years to display merchandise. My sister spray-painted those pink. The baskets were used as the bread baskets. I made candy bar wrappers with the theme for the party favors. 
My sister and I finally getting our own dinner. She is in the pink and I am in the black in the back.
My parents are in the center during our Pastors tribute to them.
My brother is doing a quiz. I know he is blurry but this showed some of the decorations and the number of people. This was only a portion of the people.
That is me introducing the weddding party that was present. In essence, it was my parents, my grandfather , flower girl and a groomsmen but I forgot to mention him. He was family so he didnt care.
My sister and I finally getting our own dinner. She is in the pink and I am in the black in the back.
My parents are in the center during our Pastors tribute to them.
My brother is doing a quiz. I know he is blurry but this showed some of the decorations and the number of people. This was only a portion of the people.
That is me introducing the weddding party that was present. In essence, it was my parents, my grandfather , flower girl and a groomsmen but I forgot to mention him. He was family so he didnt care.
More coming.
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